The premarital book every couple actually needs.
Two companion volumes — the Guide to read together and the Workbook to write in together. Fifty chapters covering the conversations most couples never have until it's too late. Written for heterosexual, LGBTQ+, and polyamorous couples together — the first of its kind.
Three readers. One shared toolkit.
The Guide and the Workbook were built to hold up whether you're the couple, the clinician, or the clergy leader walking a couple through the year before the wedding.
Engaged & Committed Couples
Work through the conversations that matter most before the wedding — communication, money, sex, family, faith, kids, and the future you're actually building. At your own pace. On your own couch.
Therapists Using It With Clients
A structured, session-ready framework for premarital work in your practice. Assign chapters between sessions, use the workbook prompts in-room, and give your clients a resource they can keep long after termination.
Clergy Preparing Couples
A clinical, evidence-informed companion to your existing premarital tradition. Culturally responsive language, inclusive frameworks, and prompts that hold space for spiritual and secular couples alike.
Not another wedding-planning workbook.
Most premarital resources ask you to plan the wedding. This one asks you to prepare for the marriage — the whole marriage, in all its complexity.
First of Its Kind — For All Couples
The only premarital workbook written for heterosexual, LGBTQ+, and polyamorous couples together. No separate editions. No footnotes. Every couple reads the same book.
50 Chapters, One Full Year
A chapter a week for a full year of engagement — or drop into the topics that matter most for your relationship. Structured enough to guide, flexible enough to follow you.
Built on Clinical Practice
Every chapter is grounded in the research and shaped by more than ten years of the author's premarital and couples work in an active clinical practice. Not theory-only. Not blog-post advice.
Culturally Responsive
Written for the couples most premarital books quietly leave out — interracial, intercultural, interfaith, multiracial. Language and prompts that assume difference is part of the room, not the exception.
Guide + Workbook, Not Just One
The Guide is the read — the narrative companion that gives you the frameworks. The Workbook is the write-in — prompts, exercises, and conversations you actually work through together. Two volumes, one method.
Trauma-Informed Throughout
Every prompt is written with attachment history, past hurt, and disclosure in mind. Consent-aware pacing. Space to pause. Room to say, "not tonight."
A peek at what you'll work through.
Fifty chapters organized into modules that cover the topics couples actually argue about after the wedding. Here are a few.
And 38 more chapters — including trauma histories, exes and entanglements, wellness, digital life, estate planning, and the premarital charter.
Written by a clinician still in the room.
Olivia L. Baylor is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and the founder of My Mental Health University®. For more than ten years she has done premarital and couples work in an active clinical practice — with heterosexual, LGBTQ+, and polyamorous couples, across cultures, faiths, and family structures.
The Before I do Method™ is what she wished existed when she started. So she built it.
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The Complete Premarital Preparation Guide
The narrative companion. Frameworks, research, and story — everything behind the Before I do Method™. For couples, clinicians, and clergy who want the "why" behind the work.
- Print edition, ships September 2026
- The full Before I do Method™ framework
- Culturally responsive throughout
The Complete Set — Guide + Workbook
Both books together. The read and the write-in. The full Before I do Method™ experience — everything you need to work through the year before the wedding.
- Both print editions, ship September 2026
- Save $29 vs. buying separately
- Guide + Workbook + all 50 chapters
The Complete Premarital Preparation Workbook
The 50-chapter workbook — prompts, exercises, and conversations couples work through side by side. The only premarital workbook written for heterosexual, LGBTQ+, and polyamorous couples together.
- Print edition, ships September 2026
- 50 chapters of prompts and exercises
- Inclusive of all couple structures
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