For engaged and seriously dating couples
The Before I Do Method™
Most couples spend a year planning a wedding and very little time planning the marriage. The Before I Do Method™ walks the two of you through fifty conversations before the wedding: money, family, faith, roles, intimacy, conflict, children, and the life you are building.
Created by Olivia L. Baylor, LCPC, a licensed counselor, and written for every kind of couple: LGBTQIA+, polyamorous, interfaith, interracial, and blended families.
How it works
Read it. Write it. Talk it through.
Each piece does a different job. Use one, or use them together.
Read
The Guide explains each conversation and why it matters, one chapter at a time.
Write
The Workbook gives each of you space to answer on your own, then compare.
Talk
The Conversation Cards put the questions on the table, anywhere you are.
Learn
The online course walks you through all fifty chapters with video lessons.
Best value
Bundles
The more you put together, the more you save.
The Engagement Box
- The Complete Premarital Preparation Guide
- The Complete Premarital Preparation Workbook
- The 52 Conversation Cards deck in a keepsake box
- The Companion Journal
- The Pen Set
- The Tote Bag
The Complete Set
- The Complete Premarital Preparation Guide
- The Complete Premarital Preparation Workbook
- The 52 Conversation Cards deck in a keepsake box
Course + Guide + Workbook
The full online course for both partners, plus both books shipped to you.
The Book Set
The Guide and the Workbook together. The read and the write-in.
One at a time
Shop individually
Start with the piece that fits where you are.
The Guide
Fifty chapters on the conversations that shape a marriage, with the reasons behind each one.
The Workbook
Worksheets and prompts for every chapter. Answer on your own, then compare.
Conversation Cards
52 cards in a keepsake box. Good for date night, road trips, or a gift.
The Online Course
Self-paced video lessons for both partners, with 12 months of access and a certificate of completion.
Florida couples: completing the course makes you eligible for the State of Florida's marriage license discount and waiver of the three-day waiting period. Details here.
Add to your set
Journal, pens, and tote
The pieces that go with the books and the cards.
Companion Journal
A guided journal with daily writing prompts for the two of you.
Not ready to buy yet?
Start free
Take the two-minute quiz to find your first conversation, or download thirty questions to ask each other.